NVR Training

1. To learn to resist Non-violently: Understanding our own responses to the ideas of violence, Non-violence, and resistance in the context of social differences. 2. To think about escalation patterns and the logic of control; exploring ways to de-escalate including non-verbal communication and prioritising behaviours. 3. To raise parental presence; the idea of not giving in and not giving up, creating a sense of belonging and safety for the young person and the family. 4. To resist harm and carrying out peaceful protest in response to significant incidents of harmful and destructive behaviour 5. To build a caring community around each individual family; developing a support network of other adults who show care and support the parents / caregivers as they embed the approach. 6. To reconcile and repair relationships with young people; developing reconciliation gestures and ways of making amends. Non-violent principles appear at times ‘self-evident’ – but can be very challenging to put into practice; and at other times they feel deeply counter-intuitive. However, as parents and carers continue to learn to respond to serious family difficulties more effectively within the methodology of NVR, they develop a profound understanding of reconnecting within adult-child relationships and experience the improvement of the young person’s behaviour against this background. Whilst a number of guiding principles give NVR its structure and help parents and carers develop an understanding of the process, it also allows for individual flexibility and can be adapted to each unique family and care situation. NVR goes beyond the behaviour to develop a coherent and positive family narrative, and help children form more secure attachment, value and feel valued in their key relationships – even, or especially when the young person refuses to engage in therapy.